One of the prevailing challenges in Nigeria is getting good husbands. The Nigerian population of women has kept increasing tremendously. In 2023, female population for Nigeria was 110 million persons. Over the last 50 years, female population of Nigeria grew substantially from 30.6 million to 110 million persons rising at an increasing annual rate that reached a maximum of 3.09% in 1980 and then decreased to 2.39% in 2023.
The economic situation in the country has also delayed many men from taking wives coupled with the high level of promiscuity. This has given rise to the high level of divorce in the country. In view of this, many women have not been able to get husbands as they move towards an average age giving rise to pressure from parents and the society. Some experts have therefore proffered methods of getting husbands at this critical period.
Good mannerisms, good dress sense, sense of purpose and direction, a cool head on a sturdy neck combined with a dash of feminine vulnerability and seductiveness among others are the qualities that attract good husbands. According to Dr Henry Goribe, a psychologist and marriage counsellor; “You may never know who is watching you. Your prospective husband might be watching from afar or even people who are scouting for their male friend or relatives. Word goes around if you are a bad or good girl and you will get recommended based on who you are.”
It is easier to notice good characters and behaviour in a woman. If a woman is herself, and not competitive, she is likely to attract good prospective husbands. There is no need to scheme, lie, manipulate and steal other people’s boyfriends and husbands. It will fail at the end of the day.
Many ladies live fake lives and such lives attract fake husbands. Dr Golibe advised that one needs discernment to determine the fake ones from the genuine ones. Some destiny wreckers will come with bad intentions. You need to be able to sniff them out and divert their unwanted attention.
Many Nigerian man have developed inferiority complex as a result of the financial, social and academic status they find themselves. They develop cold feet when they encounter women with higher status. In this case, ladies must be careful in managing such situations because such men are not likely to change even when they move out of such status. So, ladies, like water must seek their levels. This situation can also be overcome with humility and total submission. Listen, respect him and never assume you are always right. His opinion also counts.
Many men even though they cheat are not comfortable with ladies that cheat. Do not cheat. You cannot use sex to sell yourself to your future husband. Many of them do not buy such. And if they do, it may not last.
When you are in a courtship, show interest in the family you hope to live with. You will live with their family, not vice versa. Show love to his family, support and encourage them. Whatever they see during the courtship they will use as a yardstick to assess any lady aspiring to be a member of their family. If you can afford it, don’t be stingy. But don’t show them that you are above them in doing this.
An independent and hardworking lady is most likely to attract suitors than one who is idle and dependent. Most girls these days look for men who would bear all their problems. Many men are looking for partners and not subjects. They are looking for helpers and not those to compound their problems.
Finding a great male partner, regardless of tribe, often involves a combination of factors such as shared values, mutual respect, effective communication, and emotional support. It is therefore important to focus on building a strong foundation of trust and understanding in a relationship. This can involve getting to know potential partners through social and religious activities, community events, and mutual connections. In addition, open and honest communication about expectations, goals, and values can help lay the groundwork for a successful and fulfilling relationship.
Many ladies ask where they need to go and meet their prospective husbands. There are no specific places to meet your life partners. Some possible places to meet this partner could be on social media, place of work, social events, parties, shopping malls, restaurants, and clubs. You have to be frequently available or work at these places to meet such people. Meeting them is one thing and befriending them is another. Just play your cards right and you can get attention from some. You should know that just as you see them as farfetched, they also see you as such. Be sincere and gentle with them and you can have a smile from them.
Put on attractive and decent external looks. Don’t allow your attitude to repel you from your future husbands. Put a smile always. There is beauty in so many areas of a woman. A future husband can be attracted by any of these beaty that he beholds.
